Friendship comes natural to some people. They just have a knack for knowing how to build that bond that can last a lifetime. However, some people build friendships that are not that strong, and they stay on shaky terms sometimes ending badly. It could be that they forgot some basic principles to follow in building those friendships. Dale Carnegie gave us all a lot of great advice:
Do Not Criticize, Condemn, or Complain – These three C’s can kill a friendship faster than anything. They impart a negative attitude and lower the self-esteem of other people. Avoiding them in your daily life will help you to be a more positive person that draws others to you.
Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation – People love to hear praise for their efforts, whether they are great or small. Offering honest appreciation boosts the person’s morale and makes them want to near you more, allowing the friendship to build.
Arouse in the Other Person an Eager Want – Be enthusiastic in your conversations and your actions. People are drawn to someone that is positive and animated in the way they live from day to day.
Become Genuinely Interested in the Other Person – Opening up to others and allowing them to open up to you will help to build a stronger friendship. Genuine interest in the other person lets you learn more about them to find compatibility.
Smile – A smile shows people your positive side. It indicates that you are easy to be with, and prompts others to smile, too. Smiling at someone shows that you are happy to see them and that you value their friendship.
Remember Names – Remembering names shows that you are interested in the other person, and allows to remember other details about them. When you think of their name, a face comes to mind as well as other things you have already learned about them.
Be a Good Listener – Although we have the tendency to find an opening in a conversation so that we can speak, we learn more when listen than when we talk. Allow the other person to tell you about themselves in order to build a strong friendship.
There are more tips from Dale Carnegie that he gave us years ago in building friendships. They still work today and will continue to work for years to come. Getting to know these guidelines will help find success in many areas of your life, as well as in building strong relationships.
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