As we look at the holiday weekend as it fast approaches, we see it indeed is a good time of year here in Indiana. Everything is greening up and opportunities and growth are still part of our 2012 focus. In How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age, the newest Carnegie bestseller, we realize just how critical relationship and friends are for success.
In Chapter 4, Begin in a Friendly Way, it is instantly realized by the reader that being a good friend just enables others to be good friends as well. Agreement is always a critical aspect of moving forward and making any organization better. As is stated early in this chapter, a friendly greeting always has a subtle message of importance and value. There is great power in this as people work together.
Although not necessarily integrated in this chapter, it is important to have L.O.V.E. in every decision and in every interaction. This is not love in the romantic sense, but it is a way to remember to respect and understand others in any situation. The acronym L.O.V.E. has power.
- L: Listening is a must in every relationship. In fact, listening gives everyone a chance to explain both goals and objectives, and decisions are always much better when the whole picture is clearly understood.
- O: Observing how and why something is presented is critical in exchanging ideas. Non-verbals or body language must be assessed as well. It is not so much what is said as how it is said that needs to be paid attention to even in the quickest of conversations.
- V: Voice and the chance to express it make all the difference in the world when a message needs to be remembered and reacted upon.
- E: Enthusiasm is a base ingredient to establishing opportunities to make people successful. It is enthusiasm that sets the tone in every situation. And it is as highly contagious as it is welcomed.
In every relationship, as with every friendship, there has to be the clear need for heartfelt engagement.
As it says at the end of the chapter, “Winning friends (always) begins with friendliness.
Put a little l.o.v.e. in your heart the next time you have a conversation and good things will happen.
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